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Healing Your Mother (or Father) Wound
If you have unresolved feelings about your mother (or father), making them part of your mindfulness practice can transform what has been a hindrance in your life into a teacher.
Living with Disappointment
If you choose to consciously accept life's disappointments, you will discover meaning in your suffering.
Opening to Love
Practicing loving-kindness and compassion allows you to be at peace in the midst of suffering.
Setting Personal Boundaries
Developing and maintaining healthy boundaries is vital to your psychological growth and spiritual liberation.
The Yoga of Relationship
Cultivating mindfulness can help you face the inevitable difficulties and disappointments that arise in relationship with equanimity, compassion, and loving-kindness.
The Challenges & Rewards of Commitment
In order to move beyond your fear of commitment—whether it’s to your spiritual practice, a relationship, or your career—you must first evaluate what is worthy of your commitment.
Mindfulness in Relationships
Through practice you can dramatically increase your feelings of relatedness to others. Read the following articles and listen to the suggested audio dharma talks, and then deepen your understanding of the teachings by contemplating the reflections provided below.
Audio Dharma Talk
What is the role of the Self in spiritual development? What we think of as being the Self is really our ego, which is a useful, organizing complex within our body of experience. The ego has a sense of boundaries and helps us discern whether our boundaries are wholesome or unwholesome. Boundaries may be sexual, physical, or involve possession and may entail a lover, family, or a group of people. Buddhist precepts show us how to respect boundaries, both our own and those of others.
The Tao of Relationship, Part 3
Moffitt traces the origins of romantic love to courtly love that arose in the Middle Ages and which focused on a spiritual dimension that was awakened in the lovers. When we investigate relationship in the light of the dharma, we are going back to the roots of Western thought. The tools of mindfulness can help us see that a lot of our suffering in any kind of relationship, not just romantic, comes from grasping and wanting it to be a certain way.
The Tao of Relationship, Part 2
Moffitt elaborates on how the dharma shows up in love relationships. He describes four types of unhealthy relationships and how the dharma can help us discern what is unhealthy. He also talks of mutuality in healthy relationships and how dharma precepts serve these. Lastly, there is the possibility of attaining moments of the relationship Martin Buber called “I-Thou” and which is inherently part of our Buddha nature.